At just 19, Mustafa Aderonke faced a life-altering dilemma — marry a man she didn’t love or take a desperate gamble to escape the arrangement.
In an exclusive interview on Talk-to-B, the now 34-year-old hairdresser and mother of three recounted the controversial decision she made as a teenager to avoid being forced into marriage with an older, already-married man.
The Plan: Pregnancy as an Escape Route
Aderonke, the only daughter among three older brothers, had just completed her WAEC exams when she discovered that her mother was secretly making plans to marry her off.
“I told myself that once I was pregnant, she would have no choice but to leave me alone,” Aderonke explained.
Believing it was her only way out, she approached her boyfriend and asked him to get her pregnant.
The Twist She Didn’t See Coming
But her plan backfired.
“The boy was wise; after everything, he gave me Seven Up and Alabukun. I didn’t even know what it meant back then,” she revealed.
Her escape plan had failed — and tensions at home were only getting worse.
The Night Everything Changed
“One night I left the house, and when I came back, I met the door open. I didn’t know what my mother had planned,” she said, hinting at an even deeper family conflict that shaped the rest of her life.
Nyima vanen Manasseh
That was in the past the mistake that most parents make. But for now they learn from it. Any body doing the same now, is no longer a mistake but an act of weakness.
Forcing your daughter to marry a man old enough to be her father whom she didn’t have a feeling for is unhealthy and eventually death.
But thank God for your life you didn’t commit suicide life still goes on. But one thing is sure you must have learn one or more lessons from that. Which placed you in a better position to influence the present generation as a mother.