Not all men are the same.
But there’s one powerful way to know if he truly respects you — or just wants to use you.
Watch what he says when he thinks you’re already comfortable.
The kind of questions he asks reveals his real mindset — not the sweet words.
So, if he keeps asking you any of these 3 questions,
Sis, that’s not love. That’s a red flag.
1. “Can You Send Me a Little Something?”
Yes, it sounds harmless.
But this is often how it starts.
When a man constantly:
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Begs you for money
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Complains about being broke
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Guilt-trips you into “helping” him…
It’s a sign of emotional manipulation — not love.
Real love is built on partnership, not pressure.
A man who respects you won’t make you feel like a provider.
He’ll want to earn and protect you, not use your pocket.
2. “Are You a Virgin?” or “How Many Men Have You Slept With?”
This question has one goal — to judge you and put your worth on a scorecard.
If a man asks this early in the relationship:
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He’s not focused on your heart or values
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He’s obsessed with control, not commitment
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He may be planning to use and dump based on your answer
❌ A man who truly values you will never use your past to measure your future.
3. “Can We Keep This Between Us?”
He doesn’t want people to know about you.
He avoids posting you.
He says things like:
“Let’s keep it low for now.”
“People don’t need to know.”
“I’m a private person.”
Listen carefully:
Privacy is different from secrecy.
When a man hides you from the world, he’s not proud of you — or worse, he’s keeping his options open.
If he truly loves you, he won’t be afraid to be seen with you, for you, and beside you.
Final Word:
A man who respects you will:
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Speak with intention
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Honour your dignity
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Protect your image and feelings
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Never ask questions that belittle or test you
If he keeps asking things that make you feel uncomfortable, ashamed, or confused —
He’s not building a future. He’s testing his control.
Know your worth, Queen. Don’t settle for less than honour and respect.
Send this to a sister, friend, or woman in a confusing relationship.
Let her see the red flags before her heart gets broken.
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